Which Real World? Seeing the World through Different Eyes

I wrote this article about 16 years ago, long before there was blogging in my world. It is reprinted from The Cracker Barrel (Fall / Winter Issue 1996-97). It is interesting how much the experience in this article guided my life since this time, and how much I find myself using today what I learned then. For me, this is what experiential education is all about.

How many times have you had someone ask you, “So what do you do in the real world?” In a resort community frequented by visi­tors who are usually trying to get away from a faster paced lifestyle, I bet the question is asked quite often. As an employee of Mount Snow, I’m asked the question every day. I usual­ly reply first with a puzzled look to get some clarification, but then give in and acknowledge that I too have a job in their world.

As the Deerfield Valley has become my primary home, I’ve thought more and more about how to answer the question. Isn’t my world of teaching skiing and biking here at Mount Snow the real world? Isn’t our world of a resort community, nestled within the lush forests of the Green Mountain National Forest, real? Why do we see our world as separate worlds, city and forest, mountain and valley, work and play, mine and yours?

Well, one thing I know is that I’ve only learned as much as I know, so if I don’t know, I’ve got some more learning to do! Recently, I set out on an expedition to do some more learning. In June, I spent a month in the eastern Cascades of Washington state with a group of outdoor educators in the National Outdoor Leadership School (NOLS). Not knowing exactly what it was that I wanted to learn, I knew the experience would help me see things differently, hopefully giv­ing me new perspectives that would help me understand more about all of my worlds. I spent a month above snow-line in a group of nine, travel­ing many miles per day in wet spring snow, climbing thousands of feet on rugged pitches sometimes approach­ing 45 degrees, and sharing our lives on a daily basis. I managed to have time to ponder a few thoughts on liv­ing in my multiple worlds, on how what I learn in one world really does apply in the other.

The best leaders are also the best coaches. It is not enough to tell someone you work with or live with just what to do and how to do it, you must give them the tools, show them how, motivate and coach them.

Jeremy was a nineteen year old college student from Michigan studying outdoor recreation. The son of two professional psychologists, he was sort of a free-spirit guy who didn’t pay much attention to details before jumping in and just doing things. He was the guy who stood on the edge of a cliff without being tied off, who would not think twice about the risks before crossing a rushing mountain stream, who would acci­dentally spill the boiling water you had just made from melting snow with a limited supply of stove fuel! Jeremy was also the guy we called The Bonk-in-ator because every after­noon, after a long day of backcountry travel… bonk! No more energy. He’d get quiet, doubt his capabilities, and slow down.

It was interesting to see how Jeremy responded to different leader­ship styles. It wasn’t enough to tell him to eat more food and drink more water. It wasn’t enough to just tell him how to take care of his feet. Every day, bonk! He had no energy to go on or to take care of himself once we reached a suitable overnight camp. Finally, because the success of the group depended on the success of each individual, we started to coach him. We showed him what to eat and when to drink. We even carried snack food for him. We gave him support and encouragement. We made him feel good about himself and his role in the group. And in the end, Jeremy was a vital link in the success of our group.

In business, isn’t it also an essen­tial ingredient of company profitability that staff succeeds and be satisfied, in addition to the customer? Maybe we all need to be better coaches in whatever world we are involved in. Maybe I can even apply some of my ski teaching skills to my engineering career?

Conserve energy. Work on what’s important.

 There has been much written on time management. I like what Dr. Stephen Covey speaks about in “First Things First”‘. Spend your time on what’s important; what is part of your personal value system. In skiing, we try to coach people to mini­mize excess motion which disturbs balance. In mountain biking and other endurance sports, we talk about not wasting energy and about relaxed breathing. In our personal lives, it may be about spending more time with the kids or participating in a community activity.

It was a long day. We climbed 2000 feet after leaving the town of Holden on Lake Chelan. Our packs were filled with our new rations of a week and a half. We picked up additional ropes and climbing gear for the ter­rain ahead. Our packs were heavy. We traversed avalanche slide areas and bushwhacked through alders and slide debris. As we sat on our packs, resting, waiting for the other part of our group at the designated meeting spot, we were silent. On all sides above and around us were the steep pitches of snow, rock, and avalanche debris which covered the slopes of a large, glacial cirque. Our route south to our next ration point, 10 days away, was up and out of the cirque.

We decided, as a group, that the only way we would get all members of our group up, over, and back down the other side in one day, would be to start early when the slope was still frozen. Afternoon slush had a greater likelihood of slid­ing and the slopes we were on were very susceptible. We had decided not to carry our crampons on this ration period because of the weight and the snow conditions. Our strategy meant that a few of us would have to kick steps in the snow, up a 1500 feet high pitch, late in the afternoon, so that they would set up for the rest of the group and allow early morning trav­el. At that moment, it became very clear to me what conserving energy meant! Determine what is impor­tant, and focus on it each and every step of the way!

 If something unexpected happens, deal with it immediately.

On the way down that same range, Jeremy accidentally slipped into another member of our group. Luckily, no one was hurt. However, Joanna, a small, careful, and very detail-oriented professional women, was inwardly very upset with the more casual Bonk-in-ator. Jeremy, constantly under the guiding hands of various group members, was inwardly embarrassed and felt detached from the rest of the group. And we still had to descend the most treacherous terrain on ropes, depending entirely on one another. This was no time for pent-up anger and ill-willed feelings.

How many times in my life had I not been able to deal with a situation effectively because of pent-up feelings which I had not previously dealt with? I try to remember this situa­tion with Jeremy and Joanna con­stantly now when I feel something brewing within.

Our individual worlds are as big or as small as we want them to be, or as encompassing as we see them, but in the end, they’re all connected.

For 15 years, I spent the majority of my life engineering structures for buildings where attention to detail was my world. I became immersed in it. On weekends, however, I was drawn to the grandeur of the moun­tains. There, teaching skiing was my world. There, standing atop the mountain on a clear winter night, everything seemed so distant from my other world.

I think it was our third night together on our expedition. It was another long day. We didn’t find a site near water until near nightfall. We dug small shelters in the snow to protect our tents from the cool winds which blew down over us to the long valley below. After eating, we all sat down to discuss who we were, where we were from, and why we were there. Not just names and places, but who we really were. What events and influences brought us to be who we were at that particular time and place? I sat there and listened to Rick read a Native American story. I looked up to the stars, which looked just like they do from the top of Mount Snow, and down to the dis­tant lights in the valley which also looked so familiar. It occurred to me that everything I had experienced in my life brought me to that moment. Everything.

It was that moment which gave me the focus for this article. For the rest of the trip, for the rest of my vacation to this unfamiliar land, my thoughts became directed on how my experiences on that adventure were connected to my real world. It seemed like the more I learned, the more I could begin to see all of the connections between my other worlds. As I have seen the connec­tions, the more I have wanted to apply them in whatever real world I was in.

Our environment is our world. Our earth, our atmosphere, and all forms of life they support, are connected. We are each a vital link.

One last experience… It was the end of our trip. We were picked up by a van after living for three weeks with the forest as our friend and with each tree as our companion. Tired from a twelve mile hike out of the woods, yet elated at the thought of a shower (Jeremy ran out!), a sudden silence overcame the whole group. Just as the sounds of U2’s Bullet the Blue Sky came on the radio, the chop­pers of a cut and run logging opera­tion flew overhead suspending the trunks of salvaged timbers. The music rang out “Outside is America…” I was a cultural shock; a rude awakening to the real world. We were trying to understand. Suddenly, my perspective changed. I could no longer look at distant lands and forests, and what goes on in them, as being separate from my real world. My world just got bigger. Just like guests who come to our southern Vermont community and take away experiences they will always remem­ber, the forests were telling me, “Don’t forget about us.”

About the author: Bob has been a structural engineer with Ryan-Biggs Associates in Troy, NY, for 13 years. He has also been teaching skiing for over 20 years. Recently, Bob changed his real world and is the Director of Staff Training for Skier Development at Mount Snow, VT. He spends many winter nights snowshoeing on top of the mountain look­ing out at both worlds. 

Not sure why…

Not sure why, but I felt like posting this picture again this morning.

Could it be because I’m taking a week off next week and going to the ocean?

Could it be that when I look at the big sky and the big ocean, I feel more connected?

Could it be that when I accept that things are perfect as they are (without judgment), that when I feel connected and that I belong here (and when I actually feel acutely aware that I am part of a interdependent and inter-connected caring community called the Universe), that rays of light and happiness seem to shine more clearly?

Feeling grounded… reaching for the heavens… soul… spirit…

Felt like posting this picture again.

Not sure why… but it is indeed a good morning, yes?

Words of Advice. Setting Intention, Again.

A number of weeks ago, when my father was still able to share words of wisdom, he looked at me and saw that my smile was not natural. He said to me, “Don’t let your job get the best of you.” I understood what he meant immediately.

What I immediately understood was, when your work is a natural way for you to express who you naturally are, your work will naturally be a way for you to give your best; when your work forces you to act in a manner that is in conflict with who you naturally are, your work will not get the best you.

During my dad’s eulogy yesterday, I spoke about who I am and how much I was my father’s son. I ended my talk with the following:

“I am Bob Speck Jr, son of Bob Speck Sr. I come from the green hills of New England, the blue shores of the Atlantic, the golden fields of New York, and have found my spirit in the white peaks of the Wasatch. I serve my villages, and plant seeds of learning and joy, with wisdom and integrity, with humility and humor. I spend my days in this world of dreams; my father walks in the land of strawberries. And it is all SO BEAUTIFUL.”

I had referenced the Divine in my talk, God, Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit, the Universe, Mother Earth, the Great Spirit. In my mind, I was also thinking, “I am Kokopelli. I am Hanuman. I am Bhudda.”

I believe in the Oneness of all. Everything is connected. We spend too much time living under a guise of separation and division, competition and comparison, self-promotion. I believe we are our best selves when we act for the betterment of all things.

In my future actions, I will set my intention to be who I naturally am. I will tune into the energy and memories of the mentors who have guided me (my father, my uncle, my wounded warrior friends, my yoga teachers, my coaches and teachers, my mother) and connect with them through daily rituals and practices.

I will set my daily intentions to be who I naturally am, in order that I am able to give my best to the work of my life. And I will take full responsibility for who I am.

I will live by my father’s example to be me (as best I can), to accept others for who they are, to do good work on the behalf of others, and to do it with a sense of humility, togetherness, dignity, and joy.

Just Be Me… Just Be You

At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.
— Lao Tzu

It’s been fun during the last few months working with folks at Stratton Mountain developing initiatives centered around health and wellness. This past week, we settled on a logo and concept of what we’re all about, what we want to be. The concept is centered on the word, “Be.” Be fit. Be well. Be here. Be who you want to be. Be _______. (Fill in the blank.)

I try to keep a daily practice that helps me stay in touch with me, the real me, and who I am. At the center of my being, I do indeed know who I am. The challenge is staying in touch with who I am when I work in a world that judges me based on what I do. Sound familiar? I believe it’s a struggle that we all face, a struggle we are all meant to endure, and a struggle that gives us further insight about ourselves (as we let go of judgment).

When a co-worker approaches me and says with sense of urgency, “We need to do this,” or “You need to do that,” my skin curls. I need water, I need nutrients from Earth and the energy from the Sun, I don’t need to do what someone else says I need to do. What I understand immediately is that they desire something and that they view it with a certain sense of urgency. But, it is up to me to choose whether it is something that I desire to do, and whether it is important to me (and who I am) that I do it. Knowing who I am and who I want to be, I have the power to choose what I do. 

At the heart of the matter is a simple cultural challenge: If we each act in accordance with who we are really as individuals, it will require acceptance of each other’s unique individuality if we are going to act together effectively… and within the bounds of accepted behavior in our business environment and our free society. This is where common vision (personal, business, village, society) becomes the beacon of light that guides us.

Today, I read Eoin Finn’s Facebook post shared at the top of this article. Then, I picked up an angel card that reminded me, “as you make changes in your life and as you encounter challenges, you are safe and secure…. stay true to yourself during trying times… with courage… without fear…”

So, as I approach my new work and as we as a company strive to promote health and wellness and a branding centered around a concept of “Be,” I believe our success will be a  direct function of whether we can “walk the walk” as a business community, accept one another’s unique skills and strengths, and let one another thrive as we each strive to be who we each are and who we each want to be. Our collective success will be a result of how we do what we do and how we support (and serve) those around us as we pursue our “Be” vision.

Human beings… human doings. When what we do is a direct manifestation of who we are and who we want to be, we are naturally happy, healthy and well.

Be me. Be you. And that’s okay…

As long as we can find common ground in who we are, which I personally believe will be founded on feelings of goodness, kindness, personal responsibility, mutual understanding and respect (and of course at Stratton, in a common desire to be happy in our active mountain sports community), what we do together will be okay too!

A Heavenly Life

The best thing we can do for our health is to have an intimate relationship with Nature.
— Eion Finn, Blissology Yoga

Sustaining these practices on a day-in and day-out basis is my ultimate worldly challenge, but also the key to my health and happiness… and the door which opens me up to a Heavenly Life.

I live in a valley village (and I have just taken a job in a mountain community) where there are endless opportunities for me to share this perspective, this passion. As I set out on this new path, I wonder how I will fare in a business environment that is inherently busy, extremely reactive to change, and ultimately focused on economical accomplishment.

I will set out with this intention: that by cultivating intimate relationships with Nature, by taking the time to mindfully slow things down and notice beauty, by remembering with grace that everyone around me is connected to this Natural path, and by continually practicing a Way of Being that sustains this Heavenly Life, I will Live On.

There has always been something magical for me when I’m high in the mountains where the sky is huge and the perspective is clear. I feel like I am in Heaven on Earth when I notice the sparkles of freshly fallen powder, when I take in the sweet aromas of pine forests, or when I listen to the trickle of clear mountain streams. I feel connected to the Universe. I am intimately part of something inconceivably huge. I am filled with wonder and with awe.

Likewise, there has always been something magical for me when I’m on the shore of the ocean where the sky and the sea each appear infinite. I feel like I am in Heaven on Earth when I notice the sparkles of the gently rolling waves, when I take in the salty scents of the ocean breeze, or when I listen to the rhythmic flow of the water as it moves in and out on the shore. I feel connected to the Universe. I am intimately part of something inconceivable huge. I am filled with wonder and awe.

Being mindful in the present moment and paying attention to what is going on around us allows us to see beauty, even if we are in a bustling city or on a crowded highway. Mindfulness slows us down. Yoga slows us down. Being in Nature slows us down. We become more aware of the world around us than we are when we are busy.

People often think that the health benefits of yoga are fitness, flexibility, and stress reduction. To me, the real gift is that it puts me in a state of mind where I stop and notice beauty, and in a state of grace where I feel moments of infinite gratitude and compassion.

People often think that the health benefits of mountain sports and outdoor activity are fitness, adventure, and accomplishment. To me, the real gift is that they put me in a state of being where I am intimately connected to Nature.

Cultivating this relationship with Nature makes my Spirit soar. Sharing this cultivation process with others feeds my Soul.